Even men need relationship advice
A couple years ago, I stumbled upon a website AskMen.com which offered all types of dating and love advice, pictures and rankings of celebrity women, and something called "The System;" a surefire way to get any woman you want--almost. It's been my source of entertaining read and procrastination since that time. With all the women's mags out there about how to get Mr. Right... or Right-Now, there wasn't really a mag marketed for men in this way. This site covered the Maxim/Details/Cosmo type topics for men in one place. Why am I writing about this?
I don't think enough guys read or learn about how to deal with relationships and could really benefit from reading these articles. This week's Doc Love Advice column answers a woman's letter about what women DON'T want: a wet rag. While women want to share their feelings, fears, obstacles they are facing, they don't want to do it on the first date. Not even the fifth sometimes. While everyone has problems, women don't want to be the ones to solve it for some weepy, mopey boy (i.e. "I used to be so alone and sad, but now that you're here, my life is complete and I live for you alone!" *footsteps running in opposite direction, growing quiter, door opens, door slams shut, man groans .... alone*). Women want a whole, already complete, no assembly or serious therapy required man to date. Clingy and needy men are such turn-offs. Why not just say you're a eunuch when you meet a girl and save her some time and trouble? Men don't like clingy women, what makes them think women love a clingy guy? Yeach! Blech! Women want men; real, flesh and blood, confident, together, okay-when-I'm-out-with-my-girlfriends-at-bars, intelligent, self-fulfilled men. If we wanted clingy and needy, we'd have children. I blame upbringing for clingy and needy boys--too much mothering. I think it leads boys to seek out a woman to treat them much in the same way. But what 20-something wants to mother a 30-something?
If a woman is really worth it, if she's together and fulfilled and confident, don't expect her to solve your problems. She won't do it and she wouldn't want to. She has a job already. If she wants to date you, she wants to do it because it is fun and it doesn't involve her using her analytical skills she's salaried to use on a daily basis. You'd think evolution helped man gain a spine, but obviously, there are some mutations that prove the spineless still exist--like people with all their wisdom teeth--you're evolutionary challenged!
I don't think enough guys read or learn about how to deal with relationships and could really benefit from reading these articles. This week's Doc Love Advice column answers a woman's letter about what women DON'T want: a wet rag. While women want to share their feelings, fears, obstacles they are facing, they don't want to do it on the first date. Not even the fifth sometimes. While everyone has problems, women don't want to be the ones to solve it for some weepy, mopey boy (i.e. "I used to be so alone and sad, but now that you're here, my life is complete and I live for you alone!" *footsteps running in opposite direction, growing quiter, door opens, door slams shut, man groans .... alone*). Women want a whole, already complete, no assembly or serious therapy required man to date. Clingy and needy men are such turn-offs. Why not just say you're a eunuch when you meet a girl and save her some time and trouble? Men don't like clingy women, what makes them think women love a clingy guy? Yeach! Blech! Women want men; real, flesh and blood, confident, together, okay-when-I'm-out-with-my-girlfriends-at-bars, intelligent, self-fulfilled men. If we wanted clingy and needy, we'd have children. I blame upbringing for clingy and needy boys--too much mothering. I think it leads boys to seek out a woman to treat them much in the same way. But what 20-something wants to mother a 30-something?
If a woman is really worth it, if she's together and fulfilled and confident, don't expect her to solve your problems. She won't do it and she wouldn't want to. She has a job already. If she wants to date you, she wants to do it because it is fun and it doesn't involve her using her analytical skills she's salaried to use on a daily basis. You'd think evolution helped man gain a spine, but obviously, there are some mutations that prove the spineless still exist--like people with all their wisdom teeth--you're evolutionary challenged!
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